Your wife should respect your parents but she’s not there to serve them, you are
In our society, most women have double standards in the way they treat their daughter and daughter-in-laws. They see bahu as bahu only and never accepted her as a beti, even if she obeys them and respect them.
Let’s start with the bride selection process, in which they check her looks whether she is fair or not, smart or fat, heighted or not, she know how to cook, how to clean, how to wash clothes, and how she handles her own home etc. I can’t understand whether they look for bahu or a massi?? No matter how stupid and ugly their son is, they need a girl who looks like a princess and works like a massi. No matter there is love marriage or arrange, she suffer in both.
I have observed that most women blatantly favor their daughters and give a raw deal to their daughter-in-laws. They never support daughter-in-laws and if her husband supports her then he called as joru ka ghulam, it is his duty to stand by her and support her but when he does, society call him as servant of wife.
Every women wants that her son-in-law obey her daughter, take care of her but not wish same for daughter-in-law. So this is known as discrimination.
There will be no difference in daughter and daughter-in-law, if we take both of them equal from the depth of our heart. Both are daughters.
We have to show love for bahu, akhir bahu bhi to beti hai.
The writer is a student of kohat university of science and technology. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org