In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher. Almost All the people have enemies in life at some stage. If you pay some attention, you can learn many positive things from them. The people who envy you are really honest as they don’t have any interest to remain in your good graces. You are really important to them because most of your enemies will value themselves by the amount of envy you have for them.
First of all, not everyone likes you no matter how hard you try. It is counterproductive to live your life to please someone else. Do what makes you happy and try to please yourself instead of others. Self-esteem is really important. Rejection is also a part of life, don’t consider it as a failure so don’t carry it with you for more than an hour.
You really need to accept people the way they are, the need of proving that you are right and communicating effectively with them makes you a good communicator. Your enemies are always trying to pick your weaknesses and emphasizing on your short comings, so pay attention to those points and use it as a tool in making yourself better with those short comings.
Sometimes our enemies are a reflection of ourselves. By studying our enemies, we see the flaws in ourselves, so learn how to change them.
Enemies help you learn how to strengthen your mind, emotions and even spirit. Instead of thinking of them as something to avoid, learn from them. Improve your power to stay calm. One of the best lessons to learn from your enemies is to respect others. Adversity is all around us. The lesson to take from this is to stay strong. Your enemies constantly challenge your patience. Challenge yourself to notice, pay attention and see the positive side of people and things will change your thinking toward positive. If the stove burned you once, don’t put your hand on it again. In the end trust is a wonderful thing and gives you pleasure and peace. When it comes to your enemies trust they will always go against you as they have done previously.
(The writer is chairman Liberal Human Forum and Director Vision Telecom. He can be reached at: firstname.lastname@example.org)