We all know that in this modern era,study is too much essential. And it’s just as important for girls as it for boys. Time has changed a lot and people also pay attention to girl’s education. A famous saying according to Brighan Young, ‘’If you educate a man you educate an individual, but
if you educate a woman you educate a generation.’’
An educated mother can give her child a better future and apparently mother is the child’s first school. So, we should have to pay a lot of attention to girls’ education. And this trend has become recessive, that people also give importance to girls’ education as they pay attention to boy’s education. But there are still some people especially old women who think about what girls have to do after studies. They think that girls will get married one day, and they only have to take care of house and children. But the better training of a child is only possible when mother is literate.
We all know about these common things. But what I am going to share with you guys is that some people can’t study at higher levels. Because the facility of university isn’t available in backward areas. Parents often send their boys for higher studies but they get scared in case of girls because now-a-days some issues or situation has arisen so that’s why parents get scared and they think that if something goes wrong with their daughters , what will they do? So they don’t send their daughters for further studies. A girl isn’t safe outside because the ratio of rapists is increasing day by day and girls fall prey to their lust. No one thinks that how this process can affect a girl, her future and her parents. People are just drunk in their own wave of fun and lust, so this is the first impact that badly affects the future of a girl and this is the main reason parents do not allow their daughters to go to university. And one more thing is that the atmosphere in hostels isn’t too good.
One of the most popular trend has arisen in our society is that we people think that a boy or a girl who hasn’t gone to university has no talent. I am not targeting anyone but all this happens. There are many such types of misconceptions in our society. The people who are living in developed areas or cities have facility of university so they can easily send their children to universities but the children who are living in backward areas don’t have facility of universities so it’s really difficult for them to convince their parents. So in our society it is believed that a child who hasn’t gone to university does not know anything and he or she is considered to be a brayler. Has anyone of us ever asked to that boy or girl about his or her dreams? Did anyone ever try to enlighten the skills of that child? No we don’t do this instead of encouraging them. We just degrade them, and consequence is that the personality of a joyful child is totally ruined.
Allah almighty has built in us a special talent and skills in every child which is different from other child because every child has different thinking and mentality. Anyways we are more attracted to what the other people have. But we forget all that glitters is not gold. You also have the gold you just need to find and refine that.
Besides this, another trend in our society is that of comparison. Infact parents are more likely to be influenced by other children and begin to compare their children with others. For example, our children don’t have the ability to talk, they can’t do anything or there’s no talent in them. Such phrases are often heard.
First of all, never compare yourself or your children with others because the mentality of your child can never be the same like the other child. Tell me one thing that parents who compare their children with others, have they ever compared themselves with other parents? Probably very few people have did this. Secondly, if you made comparison between two children then why parents don’t think that the other child is the one who went to university, he stayed outside, he knows the world better, he knows how to talk and his skills and talent have been groomed up in a proper way. This is the main difference between your child and other child. The child who remained in the four walls of the house turned from gold to brass. If you don’t want your child to go to university, then please stop comparing and blaming your child. I am not saying that my father didn’t provide me education, he allowed me to go to the best institutes within the city yet we didn’t have enough opportunities in our city till now. He never differentiated between me and my brothers. He didn’t allow me to go outside for higher studies but still thank God, I have done Masters in Botany only with the help of Allah almighty, and with the support of my father.
My purpose behind writing this article was only to ensure that children who can’t go to universities aren’t considered to be inferior creatures. And please don’t make them feel inferior by comparing them. It’s your choice whether you want to send your child to university or not. So please try to find your child skills and save them from being lost. I and thousands of kids like me, who can’t go to university aren’t Brayler. We also have skills. Parents just need to groom them. There’s nothing degrading to any creature which is created by the Lord of universe. Put out your child out of it and tell them you can do this, and you will surely do this. Like I start blogging a little bit and my brother impels me for this. So in this way keep promoting your children to enhance their skills and confidence so guys let’s say ‘’we are talented too’’.
I request government to arrange facility of universities in backward areas so that every child can go to university. Those who lust after girls should be severely punished and government should set an example that anyone must think thousand times before doing this with someone’s daughter.
Alina Shahid is a blogger and student of Botany at GC University Faisalabad.