By Adarsh Muzaffar
Life is all about living and enjoying the existing moment. If you can’t enjoy a cup of tea, you have no idea how to taste life, if you can’t have pleasure in the conversion of seasons you have no clue how much attractive life could be.
As you need driving skill to enjoy the ride of your car, certain skills are essential to drive the car of your life. Life skills fill your life with productivity, energy, success, balance, progress, positivity, happiness and blessings. Along with educational achievements and degrees, skills are crucial to success.
Communication skill is considered as the “king skill”. Apart from constant conversation with ourselves, we communicate with our family friends, loved ones, peers and acquaintances. Conversation with our self should be immensely positive and constructive. As Tony Robbins has stated, “The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of conversation with yourself”. Those who are proficient in this skill make their ways in life.
One should live a life of purpose and must have a goal oriented personality. In order to navigate a successful future, goal setting is a significant practice it gives you a long-term vision of your life and short-term motivation. Set “smart” goals related to career, education, health, financial progress, family relations etc smart is basically S- specific M- measureable A- attainable R- relevant T- time bound. While setting goals stay true to yourself and set those goals you genuinely want to achieve based on your own desires and ambitions.
Set priorities and manage your time effectively as Goethe said “the things that matter most must never be at the mercy of the things that matter least.” Inspect your daily doings whether these are contributing to accomplish your selected goals. Ask few key questions to yourself, what is most important for me? What is the best use of my time right now? Inaugurate your each day with the most important task that will increase your productivity. Focus on the opportunities rather than problems and stop thinking about the past look forward to your future where you have to spend the rest of your life.
Value your time and learn how to say “NO” because it’s a resourceful skill to learn these days where you daily encounter a lot of distractions. Respect yourself and be very conscious of how you spend your time because each time you say “yes” in courtesy to any unimportant task you say “no” to the things worth doing. As you say “yes” to a career or job you genuinely don’t want to excel in, you say “no” to your dreams and passions. If you don’t say “yes” to your aspirations, then who will give you the courage to say yes to them?
To be social genius, learn public dealings and manners in order to make yourself acceptable and considerable in the society. Learn how to say thank you and please, how to get permission, how to greet people, how to treat others with respect. Dealing with good manners reveals that you respect others as well as yourself. Showing all these manners will boost your confidence level and will be beneficial for you in numerous ways. As B.C Forbes said “the human being who lives only for himself finally reaps nothing but unhappiness. Selfishness corrodes, unselfishness ennobles, satisfies. Don’t put off the joy derivable from doing helpful, kindly things for others.”
Think out of the box, learn how to think creatively and then experience its magic. Develop a habit of thinking big, acting big and doing big things, create something out of nothing. It will compel you to perceive things from a wider and broader perspective. Think big without any fear, hesitation and reservation in order to grow more and shine more. Why you think about doing a job why not about being able to give jobs to others?
Self management is an inevitable skill. Take the charge of your life if you will not, then someone else will take the control of your life. Stay focused and moving, manage your resources like money, time, energy, emotions, behaviors, actions, reactions to the situations bound to occur in life. Lack of self management leads you towards anger, self pity, deceiving, and emotional exploitation.
Ultimately you will develop a habit of leading yourself, your life, your energy, your passion ultimately this will lead you towards balanced and successful life. “if your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more you are a leader” -John Quincy Adams. Expand your exposure through learning new things, skills to excel in life and feel the difference!
(The writer is a graduate of MSc Development Communication graduate and she can be reached at: [email protected])